How Personal Do You Get?

You know? One of the hardest things about being a blogger is coming up with original and fresh content everyday. If you’re like me, I’m sure you spend a considerable amount of time scouring these internet streets, TV, and radio for inspiration. But even that becomes mundane. So what do you do when you’ve checked out the usual blogs, gossip sites, porn popups and news websites? You bust the joint out, you light a match, and turn to your personal life. Experience is not only the best teacher; it’s can also be the best source of writing material.

We're cool, until you write about me.
We’re cool, until you write about me.

But there are a couple of problems that come with writing about your personal life. For starters, how personal do you get? How much of yourself are you willing to share with your readers? And of course, how much of your interactions with the people in your life do you put out there?

The last example seems to be the most problematic and hardest to navigate. Whether you’ve followed me from day 1, or came to the party a little late, you should know I don’t do a lot of personal posts. Of the 300+ posts I’ve written, I’ve only written 4 personal posts. My reason for exercising discretion is twofold. For one, I’m a private person. I don’t like the idea of exposing too much of myself. Two, I don’t want someone assuming I’m writing about them. Even though I am a private person, I understand that connecting with my readers is important. In order to do that, I may have to open up more than I’m used to. When I use my personal experience as inspiration, it doesn’t mean the content is specifically about you.

So let’s say you have an argument with a friend or family member, your creative juices are flowing, and writing about it is therapeutic. Even if it’s from a detached third person point of view, and you don’t intend to offend that person; good intentions don’t prevent that person from taking your work personal. Said person sees the post and is none too happy.

You didn’t mean to put the other person on blast or to offend. All you wanted to do was write about what you went/are going through. Hell, even if you write about your feelings on a personal matter, uninspired by recent events, it may still cause someone to get upset. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

So what do you think? Would you feel some type of way, if you saw a post based on an interaction (no matter if it was good or bad) that you had with a writer friend, on their site, without prior knowledge? If you are writer, how do you balance writing about your personal life, without telling your friends business.

Talk to me, I’ll talk back.

Breazy Scorsese

3 thoughts on “How Personal Do You Get?

  1. If someone is truly your friend, I would certainly not think that writing a blog post about him or her that is too personal is a good idea, especially if you desire to write about a “touchy” subject involving the friend. Instead of writing about a particular friend that I may be having a problem with, I address larger issues that have wider application for not only that friend but a significant number of people. Issues between friends are best hashed out directly with them, instead of through a blog post. Readers do want to gain a firm sense of who you are, and writing about personal things can be one of the ways to allow them to learn more about you. Writing about personal matters also is a form of therapy (narrative therapy), as you indicated in you piece. If you write about a friend (from the third person point of view), I think the top question you should ask is does this piece exploit my friend in any way.

    1. It’s not about putting someone on front street, but we riders are human also. Sometimes things are going to happen in our personal lives and we may want to talk about it. I agree with you about not dedicating a post about a particular person is not a good idea. I wonder how many writers want to write about something that happened to them, but choose not to because it involves other people? Even if you write about something that only affects you, someone may feel some way about it.

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