Let’s say you and your boo thang break up, and you both go your separate ways without so much as a regret, or looking back. Hell, Trinidad James has a better chance of winning “Are you smarter than a 5th grader” than the two of you getting back together. So the question is, when is the appropriate time for you to start dating again? Better yet, does it even matter? I mean if it’s over, then should there even be a time table on when one or both start dating again?
I understand some people want to feel special and more important than they really are, and may take offense to their ex moving on so quickly. But again, if the relationship is over, then why should it matter about the other person moving on? If and when the other person decides to date again, then there isn’t anything that you can do about it. That person doesn’t owe you any common courtesy or waiting period before they find someone else’s hair to pull.
IMO, I think the only person who should place a time schedule on dating again is the person who is contemplating it. That person should decide if they are ready or not, or when the time is right to start dating again.
I know that no one wants to feel played, or discarded… so I can see why anyone may question their ex about cheating on them with the person who they are currently dating. But even if that is the case, there is nothing that can be done about it. No amount of racking your brain trying to figure it out is going to make a difference. What else can you do besides to accept it and move on?
I scratch my head when talking to people about their ex significant other dating again soon after the break up. They’ll say some asinine shit like, “I guess I wasn’t that important… the relationship must not have meant anything to him/her… or I guess he/she was just looking for an excuse to break up”, which makes no sense to me. The two of you broke up for a reason. Do you really want to question the reason(s) why your ex chose to date others so soon?
What do you think? Is there an acceptable time period for someone to start dating again, after a break up? If so, how long is it?
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