Who knew you could gain introspection from a reality show? Draya, of Basketball wives fame (if fame is what you call laying on your back for a basketball player), took to Twitter to lightweight call out a soon-to- be real basketball wife Gabrielle Union, when responding to a tweet asking her if marriage was in the future.
Instead of simply saying “yay” or “nay,” Draya felt the need to presumably take a shot at Union with her “I don’t want the somebody else is pregnant ring” response. I didn’t know she could take a break from posting selfies and neglecting her child to use 140 characters and kick the truth to the young, black youth. I guess Twitter makes us do strange things, huh?
Anywho, please forgive me as I was dreaming when I wrote this, but Draya got me to thinking in a parallel universe kind of way. Thinking about all the women that not only took their man back after having knocked up another woman, but accepting his proposal and why.
Even though Draya’s tweet was probably directed at Gabrielle Union, this is something that could happen to any woman, and not just a celebrity. Hell, Target cashiers with mismatched weaves go through this all the time… I kid, I kid. I’ve known friends of mine that have experienced this same situation and I have always wondered why. I’m a firm believer in second chances and “living and let live,” but I have often wondered what led the woman to not only forgive and hopefully forget, but to want to join in holy matrimony with the dude?
It takes a special person to take someone back after they have cheated, let alone impregnating another woman. I mean you have to be forgiving and accepting, not only of the other person’s faults, but also of his child.
So what are some of the factors that could lead a woman to marry someone who she knows has a baby on the way with another woman? Could it be low self-esteem, real love, or is she just plain settling? I don’t know why Gabrielle Union is so forgiving; she can have just about any man she wants and even though she doesn’t have Beyonce money, I’m pretty sure she isn’t broke. So what could it be?
Just because someone has it going on, on the outside, doesn’t necessarily mean they have it going on, on the inside.
So what do you think? Why do you think some women marry a man they know got another woman pregnant while cheating? Has this happened to you? And if so, how did you handle it?
Talk to me, I’ll talk back.