So apparently Berg Eriksen, a first time mother, who posted to her 245,000 Instagram followers a flat-stomach, bra-and-panties selfie just four days after giving birth ruffled some feathers. The Norwegian soccer wife and fitness blogger captioned the picture with, “I feel so empty…4 days after birth,” which ignited an online backlash. Having being labeled a “shameless exhibitionist,” Eriksen’s self picture was likened to an act of war by critics who view super-fit women right after birth as intimidating, while this is unfair to all women.
Now, let me be upfront about my opinion on all of this. I do not have a dog in this fight, but I do find the critics a little hypocritical. They slam the super-fit mothers for what they feel is unhelpful and intimidating of those who aren’t, while they “themselves” are in fact trying to intimidate those who are. If you think someone is trying to shame or intimidate you, then that does not give you the right to do the same.
Obviously, women’s bodies and how they are portrayed are hot button topics. Either you are force fed the mainstream’s standard of beauty and body shape, or you have to contend with one other; this could be in the form of video vixens and major publications, and now you can add super-fit mothers to that list. Granted with all the pressures women have to “maintain” themselves, I doubt they need even more pressure to come from one of their own.
Being a man, I’m all for a woman who is in shape; but I also will admit, I don’t know the pressure(s) someone faces whose partner may be overweight. The biggest I’ve ever been was 200 lbs and that’s on a 6’2 frame, which still isn’t big. It amazes me about why some women feel as if they are being attacked or ridiculed by another who flaunts their slim and fit post-baby body. If the assumption made is that the person doing the flaunting isn’t saying “get like me,” then what’s the beef?
I’m all for loving your body, whether you are slim/slender, athletic, thick or full figured. You should be happy and accept your body as you choose. Now, if you feel you some kind of way, because someone is able to bounce back from having a baby faster than you (assuming you are trying to lose weight); or if someone who is a different size shows off, then that sounds more like a personal problem.
Whether or not you are comfortable with your body, why should you be concerned with what the next person is doing? Or, let alone, feel ashamed or intimidated? You don’t know that person’s struggle anymore than they know yours. Unless the person is purposelessly rubbing their fit body in your face, then why add any unnecessary stress by competing with that person?
What do you think? Do you think it’s fair for mothers who are able to bounce back to be picked on? Or do you think those that show off their slim post-baby bodies are trying to shame other women that can’t bounce back as quick?
Talk to me, I’ll talk back.