So Hot 97.5 radio personality Mr. Cee has been caught with a transvestite prostitute once again. And while this isn’t surprising, what is, is the fact that Mr. Cee doesn’t think he’s bi-sexual, let alone gay. I don’t know Mr. Cee personally, and could care less about his sexuality, so him coming out or not coming out doesn’t have any bearing on my life. What I don’t understand is why Cee insists on living a life that he has to make excuses for.
Cee announced his resignation from Hot 97.5 on September 11th, after a transvestite prostitute Bimbo Winehouse released a recording that allegedly shows Cee propositioning her for sex. Rather than accept his resignation, Hot 97 program director Ebro Darden wanted to give Cee the opportunity to clear the air and tell his side of the story. During Cee’s tearful interview, he told listeners that he was simply “tired of trying to do something or be something that I’m not.” He also admitted to “messing” with transvestites and denied that he was gay.
But that was all the insight that Cee gave. He didn’t really offer any explanation as to who or what that “something” really was.
I could care less what he does in his personal life, but if he is given the opportunity to come clean like he wants to, then he really needs to come clean. No half-ass explanations that don’t really say anything. By doing this, all he is doing is lying to himself and making it harder for him to be free of whatever it is that’s burdening him. I understand that denial is a hell of a drug, but so is cocaine; so Cee when says that he never has, and still does not, consider himself to be gay, he is making excuses for his actions.
If his so called peers and friends think differently of Cee – and if I was him I would say f*uck them, he doesn’t answer to anyone, nor does he owe anybody any damn thing, but again, if he really wants to clear the air and “move on” like he says he wants to, he needs to bear his soul, and let go of the weight. I understand it’s not easy being bi-sexual or gay in such a homophobic industry like Hip Hop, but at some point Cee is going to have to choose between living a life of secrets and setting himself free and not caring about what backlash he may receive. I also know coming from a West Indian background – which I know for sure is homophobic – Cee needs to make up his mind that he is going to live for himself. Now, answering to his wife and kids is one thing, but freeing his mind is the first step in his moving forward.
It’s no secret that the Hip-Hop industry has it’s fair share of homophobia and misogyny. Just take a look/listen to any of the rappers that get regular airplay. It’s unfortunate that in 2013, Cee or anybody else in his position still cannot be forthcoming about their sexuality for fear of isolation, rejection, and retribution. Let’s not forget that Cee was responsible for finding and introducing Notorious B.I.G to Puffy and has producing credits that include the B.I.G.classic debut “Ready to Die”.
But again, it’s starts with accountability, and saying things like “I’ve never had actual sexual intercourse with another man and vice versa. That’s never been done to me” as a reason why he doesn’t think he’s gay is just him lying to himself. This reasoning is no different from the down low brothas that don’t think they are gay because even though the sleep with men, they have girlfriends and wives. Both of these examples are the personification of denial and selfishness.
I’m not one to argue what is and what isn’t gay, but IMO opinion receiving fellatio from a man that looks like a woman is gay. I don’t care how you dissect it, head from a member of the same sex – whether it’s reciprocated or not – is a gay act. So, Cee saying he isn’t gay but “from time to time he messes with transvestites” is probably his way of not coming to grips that he might be gay.
I’m not sure what you consider gay, but if the presence of male-on-male sex is your way of measuring whether a man is gay, how would you describe a man who claims to not take part in gay activities other than receiving fellatio from RuPaul repeatedly?
I commend Cee for taking the first step by doing the interview event hough I could tell he is still in denial, but he had to start somewhere. I hope that he can get to the point where he can be free and be who he really is, whether it’s straight, gay or bi-sexual. What do you think, Is Mr. Cee in fact gay? I do have my opinions, but I’m interested in what do you think.
Talk to me, I’ll talk back.