Being a blogger can get interesting when writing about a plethora of topics. One of the most interesting things about being a blogger is how people often get in their feelings about generalizations. I’m not sure if people realize it, but I have halitosis from being a shit talker who talks so much shit. I might be slightly off, but they do it because, they like to point out that everybody is not the same.
I have a little secret for you. I’m not sure if you know this, but I do know that people can’t be lumped together in a box. I’ve lived all around the world (iyi iyi) and have met all types of people, and I can tell you that people from Germany are different from people who are from DC. I say this to say, that it’s hard not to generalize, especially when I have met a lot of people during my time here on earth. It’s kind of like polls you see online or read in magazines; the people who are actually polled are just a small fraction of the population, yet they are expected to represent the larger population.I give people the benefit of the doubt, because I know we all have some sort of intelligence and can read. I assume that my audience is smart enough to know that I don’t have to put a “not all, but some” disclaimer before each generalized statement in order to not offend.
But since you know what they say about assumptions, I am surprised often by some people’s comments. I don’t mind being called out, because it comes with the territory, and I’m good as long as people keep reading. But the pure d truth of the matter (I know I’m going to come off as an asshole) is that I don’t give a f*uck, nor a window to throw it out. I don’t assume all men/women are one way or the other.
People don’t like generalizations because they’re easy and maybe a little lazy. They cover a lot of ground and tend to lump people together, right or wrong. The truth is, as much as we like to believe we are, we aren’t all that special to be singled out. The more people you come in contact with (whether they are man, woman, gay straight, etc), the closer you get to an average.
While you the individual reader may not be emotional, in general, a lot of women are.
While you, homie, may not be the no good, out of work, selfish d*ck in a glass case that we men are painted as, there are a lot of men who are.
You’ll find those who are offended by generalizations try to distance themselves from them by saying things like, “I don’t know anybody like that” or “I know more people who aren’t like abc than are like 123″. Excuse me, but I have to call bullshit. Obviously, while I do generalize at times, I blog primarily from my personal experiences. The generalizations that I tend to make aren’t all that far off, if at all, for somebody like myself, who studies people.
Generalizations and stereotypes scare people. We try so hard to be individuals so that we don’t fit them, that we actually become them. Some of us will go out of our way to distance ourselves from those crazy niggas on TV, that we become sometimes a caricature of ourselves.
Bottom line is, if you are confident in who you are and know you don’t fit into a box, then generalizing shouldn’t bother you since it doesn’t pertain to you. At the same time, we shouldn’t fool ourselves. At one time or another, we have all done something even if it was one time, that fell in line with what someone else did. Does this mean that we fit into a box with everybody else? No, it just means that we are not always the individual we think we are.
What say ye? Are generalizations really that serious? Why do you think people take offense to them if it doesn’t pertain to them? Do generalizations offend you?
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