When did women become bitches? I don’t mean answering to a man that called them a bitch, accepting and owning up to being various forms of bitches. It seems like women refer to themselves as bitches without having being called one.
Thanks to rappers Lil Kim (Queen Bitch), Trina (the baddest Bitch) and Foxy Brown, it seems like some women welcome being a bitch like it’s a badge of honor. Forget signing up for the Girls Scouts I want to be a bitch. Even model turned rapper Lola Monroe has her own Boss Bitch movement which is suppose to be a female empowerment movement O_o. We don’t believe you, you need more people. I don’t know just how much a woman can feel empowered when the first thing people see and think of is Bitch.
It might be easy to blame the younger generation for the growning acceptance of being a bitch. But let’s look in the mirror and take ownership of what we’ve allowed to slip by. How many times when you were younger have you referred to your girlfriends as “my bitches”? Or how many times did you sing along to Biggie Smalls “Me and my bitch“? Or refered to yourself as your mans “ride or die bitch”?
It seems like all accountability is thrown out the window in favor of “taking the power away from a word” just like Nigger, and becoming that word. This reasoning has the Paula Deens and Kramers of the world thinking it’s okay to say Nigger because “they say it all the time”. Why should a man feel like he is wrong for calling a woman out her name when she embraces it?
Now I’m not implying that men should be let off the hook since we are probably to blame for all of this. But at some point in time some women stopped being mad at men for calling them bitches and started becoming the bitches that men were calling them. I can’t say that hip hop is to blame for this since the rappers had to get it from somewhere. Maybe us men said the word for so long that some women were tired of fighting back. Or maybe just maybe some women use the word as an excuse for not being the daughters, sisters, wifes, and girlfriends that they should be.
I know I don’t have the right nor am I trying to chastise women on how they think of themselves . This is just an obserevation of a change I’ve noticed the last decade and a half.
What do you think brought on the change in attitude towards the word? Does the word still hold the same negative meaning it has always? Or have those that embraced it took away all the power like NWA tried to do with the word Nigger?
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