Why does “Wanting To Understand” Matters So Much?Maybe it’s a man thing but I can’t for the life of me understand why “wanting to understand” is so important to women, friendships/relationships could end yet some women can’t move on or be satisfied with the outcome until they know why or understand why it ended as if it’s going to change the outcome. Why is moving on sometimes dependent on knowing why?
How many times have relationships ended for whatever reason and some women can’t process or move on until they roll around in her head what happened or try to get to the bottom of why it ended by asking the same question a thousand times? It seems the concept of just walking away without looking in the rear view mirror is as foreign as teaching Tiny the concept of enunciation. When it comes to cracking case women are natural detectives that can’t close the case until they have the murder weapon and signed confession basically makin them naturals for the Next 48 hours.
I won’t get into the whole women are from a different planet than men but it’s safe to say that both sexes handle situations differently, most women that I know seem to purposefully be stuck in neutral and don’t want to put the past behind them for the sake of “why”. Is it easier for men to move on than women or are we just quick to say f*ck it, throw our hands up and move on to the next, suggesting that we are less in tune with our feelings and emotions than women, or do we just handle things that end better?
Now me being the kind of man who I am when things end, they end and no amount of understanding or new information will change things. I can distance myself from situations or relationships that have run their course, basically I don’t need to know the who, what, when, where and how of why things are no longer they, just are.
Maybe it’s easy for me to say this because I never felt the need for closure, again knowing why something happened is not going to change what happened, I refuse to give someone or something that much power over me to the point that I can’t move on with the rest of my life until I know why?
Ladies why does “understanding why” matter so much? Am I being a typical man who doesn’t understand. Have you been a situation where you couldn’t move on until you know reason?
Talk to me, I’ll talk back.